Category Archives: loss of parental love

Why it’s so important for parents to learn how to emotionally self-regulate.

Posted on February 26, 2013 by raisingsmartgirls

If there is nothing else I can teach my daughters before I leave this world, it’s how to emotionally self-regulate.  I have to admit, it’s been hard. I have complex-PTSD from childhood emotional neglect and abuse (I was ignored until … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, anxiety, Attachment Parenting, Depression, emotion coaching, emotional dysregulation, explosive child, highly sensitive child, highly sensitive mom, highly sensitive person, Intensity, loss of parental love, mind and body, mindfulness, personal growth, personal issues, selective mutism, social and emotional issues of the gifted, social anxiety | 5 Comments

10 Basic Good Mother Messages

Posted on May 23, 2012 by raisingsmartgirls

I’ve been a mother for 1o.5 years now.  And I need constant reminders about what is good fertilizer to grow children.  I know, so sad, right?  But it’s true. I have read in so many places regarding healing from childhood … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, anxiety, Attachment Parenting, Depression, emotional dysregulation, gifted adults, gifted children, gifted support, highly sensitive child, highly sensitive mom, Intensity, introspection, loss of parental love, meltdowns, mindfulness, motherhood, my mothering goals, personal growth, personal issues, raising smart girls, suicidal ideation, trauma | 1 Comment

If you had controlling parents…how do you avoid becoming one?

Posted on March 7, 2011 by raisingsmartgirls

I have talked quite a bit on this blog about my insecurities and anxieties about my own capacity as a mother.  Midway through my 40th year now, I spent about a year and a half examining the factors that have … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, anxiety, booklists, emotion coaching, highly sensitive child, highly sensitive mom, loss of parental love, meltdowns, mood, personal growth, social anxiety, trauma | 25 Comments

Permission to be

Posted on June 25, 2010 by raisingsmartgirls

I had a pretty severely depressed day yesterday.  To the point that the will to live was feeble and the desire to die was stronger than it’s been in recent years. Yes, despite all that I have to live for … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, Attachment Parenting, career, Depression, highly sensitive mom, incompleteness, loss of parental love, my stories, personal issues, perspective, trauma | 4 Comments

I forgot how long those meltdowns can last

Posted on June 17, 2010 by raisingsmartgirls

It’s been a long time since we had a big one. I knew we might be in trouble when I picked up daughters 1 and 2 from science camp today and daughter number 2 was pouting and huffy. I always … Continue reading →

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Trauma resources

Posted on June 6, 2010 by raisingsmartgirls

I am about a month and a half shy of my 40th birthday.  The week prior to this day the girls had 7 meltdowns (I counted) and my husband had a full blown panic attack (his first) that I helped … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, Attachment Parenting, booklists, career, combining science and motherhood, Depression, emotion coaching, faith, highly sensitive child, highly sensitive mom, loss of parental love, mind and body, overexcitabilities, personal growth, personal issues, reaching out to others in need, selective mutism, synchronicity | 4 Comments

Fallen Caryatid

Posted on March 7, 2010 by raisingsmartgirls

I love Stranger in a Strange Land by Robert Heinlein. I recently read it and discussed it with a dear friend of mine. Brilliant piece of work. It was controversial in its day, and I like that. According to the … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, gifted adults, gifted children, gifted support, highly sensitive child, highly sensitive mom, intellectual stuff, introspection, loss of parental love, personal growth | 20 Comments

It’s been 29 years Ma, get over it.

Posted on February 12, 2010 by raisingsmartgirls

Last night, after I went to visit my grandmother, I let my mother know we are going to see my biological father and step-mother. I haven’t seen my father’s and step-mother’s faces in 29 years except in pictures.  He’s never … Continue reading →

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The Mirror – Looking at my Inner Child.

Posted on February 4, 2010 by raisingsmartgirls

The Mirror – – Looking At My Inner Child I listen to my Soul whisper, “Go more deeply still.” Breathless, with eyes wide open I leap into the abyss of my hidden childhood feelings: Resentment, jealousy, rage. I was the … Continue reading →

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Research on Attachment Theory and Anxiety Disorders

Posted on January 10, 2010 by raisingsmartgirls

Recently, there’s been some renewed interest in a post from Ph.D. in Parenting’s blog post entitled Dr. Phil Stay-at-home mom vs. working mom show. Normally, I thoroughly enjoy engaging in these kind of debates on other blogs, and rarely (if … Continue reading →

Posted in Attachment Parenting, career, emotion coaching, gifted adults, gifted children, gifted support, highly sensitive child, highly sensitive mom, intellectual stuff, loss of parental love, motherhood, selective mutism, spd | 28 Comments