Category Archives: abuse

Why it’s so important for parents to learn how to emotionally self-regulate.

If there is nothing else I can teach my daughters before I leave this world, it’s how to emotionally self-regulate.  I have to admit, it’s been hard. I have complex-PTSD from childhood emotional neglect and abuse (I was ignored until … Continue reading

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New thoughts about attachment and neuroplasticity.

I wrote a blog post back in 2010 about Research on Attachment Theory and Anxiety Disorders.  I wrote that post for a two reasons – one) I was increasingly concerned about the modern trend of putting infants into daycare starting … Continue reading

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10 Basic Good Mother Messages

I’ve been a mother for 1o.5 years now.  And I need constant reminders about what is good fertilizer to grow children.  I know, so sad, right?  But it’s true. I have read in so many places regarding healing from childhood … Continue reading

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If you had controlling parents…how do you avoid becoming one?

I have talked quite a bit on this blog about my insecurities and anxieties about my own capacity as a mother.  Midway through my 40th year now, I spent about a year and a half examining the factors that have … Continue reading

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A healing journey

This has been the post that’s been on my mind for over a week now. I haven’t found the words to convey my feelings about the healing journey I went on last week, when we went by train to seek … Continue reading

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Crazy? I wish. That would make things so much easier.

So…in case you are wondering… I’m not crazy… Or even truly depressed. My therapist sez so. She is fairly amazed at my awareness and understanding and ability to articulate. [Doesn’t surprise me. I’ve always been told this.] Somehow that gives … Continue reading

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Who needs sleep?

I woke up this morning about 3:30 to the sounds of our dog, Tinkerbell, barking.  I stumbled out of bed, sans glasses, let her out of her crate, and opened the back door to let her outside – or tried … Continue reading

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Permission to be

I had a pretty severely depressed day yesterday.  To the point that the will to live was feeble and the desire to die was stronger than it’s been in recent years. Yes, despite all that I have to live for … Continue reading

Posted in abuse, Attachment Parenting, career, Depression, highly sensitive mom, incompleteness, loss of parental love, my stories, personal issues, perspective, trauma | 4 Comments

Safe Trauma Recovery

I took this picture yesterday, at the local Border’s bookstore. I think I need a reminder that I have good mommy moments as well as horrible ones. There’s many times I blow it with my kids (well, come to think … Continue reading

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Trauma resources

I am about a month and a half shy of my 40th birthday.  The week prior to this day the girls had 7 meltdowns (I counted) and my husband had a full blown panic attack (his first) that I helped … Continue reading

Posted in abuse, Attachment Parenting, booklists, career, combining science and motherhood, Depression, emotion coaching, faith, highly sensitive child, highly sensitive mom, loss of parental love, mind and body, overexcitabilities, personal growth, personal issues, reaching out to others in need, selective mutism, synchronicity | 4 Comments