At the orthodontist’s office, I was almost not going to be let back in to be with my daughter when they put the palate expander in. I had to spend time talking with the assistant and orthodontist who had an appearance and attitude reminiscent of Andrew Dice Clay, trying to explain I needed to be there in case 7 year old highly sensitive and formerly selectively mute daughter had any issues.
I tried to explain how I needed to be there…and I just felt some hostility…or perhaps it was my own projection…because I forgot how complicated it is to explain to people who don’t know her anxiety had triggered some major upsets.
I don’t WANT to explain why I have to be with my daughter…just in case she flips out. Experiences like the ER visit she had where we had to restrain her physically because she was screaming and kicking and didn’t want her head wound glued shut caused me to be uncertain as to how she’ll respond to medical/dental procedures.
Hell, even HAIRCUTS and NORMAL DENTAL EXAMS used to be cause for concern.
When I did get to go back there…she was crying.
I hate, yes hate, that the so-called professionals just don’t have any idea that parents know their kids quite well.
It turned out okay and she did great, even if mama bear did come out a little bit in the beginning.
So, it’s day four with the palate expander:
How things are going with the 7 year old and the palate expander
Day 1: Turned the key. No pain.
Day 2: Turned the key. Pain. Ouch.
Day 3: Clamped mouth shut so I couldn’t get the key in. Then relented. Turned the key. Pain. Tears. Ice water. Hugs.
Day 4: Tears. I hadn’t even gotten close to her mouth. Hugs and kisses. Turned the key. Pain. Tears. Ice water. Hugs and kisses. Comment from K after it was done:
“I don’t like the key. It’s my enemy.”
Feeding this child is difficult.
She is getting so tired of smoothies, soup, spaghettios, yogurt, mushy foods. And some things are no-no’s. Gum. Chewy Candy. Stuff that’s too hard. Bread. NO!
And even if it’s soft, things get stuck up in there. Like eggs…Yuck! I think she had a whole omelet stuck up there today.
And this child is the one that gets SO. CRANKY. if she doesn’t get enough to eat. And it sucks because yesterday she was crying and whiny for an hour but refused to eat…which made her more cranky.
For a first hand account of what it’s like to be an 8 year old with a Palate Expander, check out The Never Ending Adventures of Collin and his Palate Expander.