In grief, there is an element of inconsolability. In our needs there is an element of unsatisfiability. In the face of life’s most profound questions, there is an unknowability. This fits in with the work of Kurt Godel, the Czech mathematician, who confirmed the “incompleteness theorem”, which states that in any mathematical system there are indeed propositions that can neither be proved nor disproved. These natural incompletions reflect the first noble truth of Buddhism about the enduring and unsatisfactoriness of all experience…
Yet, there is a positive side. Inconsolability means we cannot forget but cherish those we loved. Unsatisfiability means we have a motivation to transcend our immediate desires. Unknowability means we grow in our sense of wonder and imagination. Indeed, answers close us, but questions open us. In accepting the given of the first noble truth without protest, blame or recourse to an escape to which we can attach, we win all the way around.
Our realization about the ultimate inadequacy/unsatisfactoriness in life does not have to be a cause of suffering. We can relax into the transitory as natural. We can acknowledge that we are often easy to please but hard to satisfy. We can be content with moments of satisfaction, moments of fulfillment, moments of completion. We can notice that satisfaction with what is, in all its temporariness and unsatisfactoriness, grants us a liberating serenity.
The essence of ego-ignorance is its ongoing feud with the givens of life. Our unconditional yes to them lets moments be enough.
~ David Richo, When the Past is Present.
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