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Me – Casey
I am 39 year old former scientist in the field of biotechnology. I had 12 years of clinical laboratory experience in three different areas (microbiology, forensic DNA, and medical genetics). I now stay at home with my three wonderful, bright and active girls.
I am 39 year old former scientist in the field of biotechnology. I had 12 years of clinical laboratory experience in three different areas (microbiology, forensic DNA, and medical genetics). I now stay at home with my three wonderful, bright and active girls.
This blog is devoted to learning all I can about raising smart girls, about reaching out to other parents of children who may be experiencing selective mutism and to write about my thoughts and about gifted issues.
The supporting cast -
JB – the last love of my life, my husband and my friend. You put up with such wierdness.
M – the daughter that made me a mother. 7 years old and full of wonder.
K – the daughter that made me look deeper than the surface. 6 years old and full of spirit.
E – the daughter that made me remember it’s fun to be a child. 4 years old and full of giggles.
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Hi there,
I’m a 36year old mother of one daughter (3 years 9 months) with another on the way. I was surfing the net in desperation this morning because, after a year at nursery, my daughter is still having tantrums, clinging to me, exhibiting loads of general anxiety etc.. I found your site and couldn’t believe it- as my daughter is also selectively and electively mute (ie. she’s fussy who she talks to).
I’ve only read a couple of your posts but am so excited to find someone who might be able to relate a little. I feel like such a failure around my friends whose children are confident and outgoing and I keep wondering what I’ve done wrong, and feeling lost about how to put things right.
I live in the UK (I’m guessing you’re in the US?) and so reliant on the good old NHS. So we’re still waiting on a psychologist referral at the moment.
All tips very welcome.
Natalie PS Weirdly I am also a scientist of sorts. (I’m a statistician and research methodologist in health sciences)
Natalie – Welcome!
I’m sorry I haven’t gotten to my blog before now.
Yes, I live in the US.
I can pretty much assure you, having a highly sensitive daughter is difficult at times, but not always. There are many positives to it. Your daughter, probably has a lot of good things about her that will come out when she feels safe. My daughter, for instance, is very loving and gentle when she is in a good mood. She is really gentle with babies and with animals, and she loves to brush my hair and pretend to put makeup on me with some inexpensive makeup brushes I had bought for her or pretend to cut my hair.
I will update this blog so that you can get some more ideas on what has been working.
Hi. I ran across your blog in the Mothering.com forum for Gifted kids. I was just kind of looking around, trying to gather some information about 1st grade public school curriculum, etc, when I ran across your post about your dd’s first grade class and the Scott Foresman Reader. I have 2 dd’s, one is 6 1/2 and one will be 4 in November. We also have a little guy on the way in January 2008. I noticed that you live in Indiana. Just wondering, are you in NW I? We live in NW I. Just thought I’d toss it out there in case you are actually somewhere nearby. We moved from the city – which I miss terribly) 5 years ago. When I saw the flooding pictures, it made me think that you might be nearby. We were luck ourselves to avoid floods, but some of the nearby neighborhoods got it pretty bad and the kids didn’t have school for 2 days. I blame it on the lousy I infrastructure, but that’s a whole other rant…..
We’ve been in this neck of the woods for 2 years now. Can’t say I’m loving it, but it is a compromise….closer to family, lets me work part time, etc. It’s a little too townsy for my tastes, but, at the same time, with two little ones and another one on the way, it’s not like I am sitting at the corner starbucks sipping a latte and chit chatting with urban friends about where to have lunch! It’s more about making the trip to Stracks to go grocery shopping and an obligatory stop at Target!!
Seeing your pics from your annivesary made me nostalgic, even though I get out there about once a week to teach a class. It’s not the same as being able to walk around and truly enjoy the wonderful sites and architecture.
After browsing some of your other pictures, I have to say (other than feeling that I’m invading your privacy!) is that I am somewhat jealous of your organizational skills! It all looks so wonderful, especially the Montessori manipulatives in your little girls’ room. Plus, all those great activities….it’s what I would love to do if I was more organized! I need to get on the ball myself with de-cluttering and simplifying.
Also, caught your post about SAH and making career changes. I’m not SAH, but I made a serious break from the career path (law) to be home more with the kiddos when I left a pretty prestigious job to work PT for the government. There were definitely a few raised eyebrows, family included. I don’t regret it, but I do grapple with that choice every now and then. Even though I am slowly working my way back to doing more work-related activities, it’s not like I am jumping to the top of the ladder. It’s a slow journey that changes as the kids get older and as our family needs change. I totally know what you mean about wanting the mental stimulation and the external accolades that come with a job well done. No matter how creative I get at home or how much I clean, it is just not the same sense of pride. I enjoy time with the girls, don’t get me wrong, but it is not the same as getting that sense of accomplishment from external sources at work.
Anyway, just wanted to say “Hello!” from another parent who is wading through first grade milestones and dealing with the Indiana Foresman book, parent-teacher conferences, career choices, parenting, etc. etc.
Libby
Hi Libby. You are correct. I will try to find you on the MDC site and I will PM you there. I would be guessing we are probably closer than you think.
I’d like to find out more how you will be handling a career and 3 kiddos, because I know I wouldn’t be able to. Unfortunately, there was no way I could get a part time gig going in the biotech field. I already tried with my boss and there was no way I could supervise PT.
Anyway, hubby is home and it’s dinnertime. Gotta run.
I had not seen your blog until today, but I am so impressed with your entry about breastfeeding. What a wonderful story! I admire your dedication and persistence.
I also like the picture that you posted with the entry. I have a blog (bfino.wordpress.com) that features pictures of women breastfeeding, so I greatly appreciate pictures like this one when I come across them. I don’t know whether you are interested in publishing it beyond your blog or not, but I would be glad to use it with a link to your blog if you are interested. Just let me know (barbbarry@ymail.com).
I’ll have to think about it, but I quite possibly might. Give me a little bit of time to mull it over.
Thank you. I’ll be checking out your blog.
Hi!
I have been searching for someone who has traveled down the road I am currently traveling down. My child is in our Early Childhood Program after spending time in our state’s Early Intervention Program. Needless to say, we have spent numerous hours with OT’s , Psychologists, Speech Therapists, etc. Our son (also our middle child) has among other things, SPD, speech issues, and just recently has been identified as having Selective Mutism. The similarities that I have noted in your blog in just the small amount of time this evening are encouraging! Thank you for having this blog!! I am excited to read more of your journey and for the much needed help information it will provide.
Thanks again,
Lynn
Lynn -
Welcome! I’m glad you found my blog encouraging. That’s why I decided I needed to write about it – to help myself sort things out, as well as to hopefully give helpful information to other mothers with children with SM. It’s been very challenging and promising to see her come so far. She still has her difficult moments with SM when she’s in new situations, but for the most part, her teachers have helped her work through it in the school setting, which is where she will spend most of her time, so that’s a huge relief.
The rest will come in time, but it is so much better than it used to be.
Hey lady!
I just wanted to say how much I’ve enjoyed reading your blog. Thoughtful and articulate — you always give me much to ponder.
Thanks for your site/blog: Raising Smart Girls.
I have listed it on one of my Talent Development Resources pages:
Giftedness – High Ability related sites / blogs
http://talentdevelop.com/resources.html
Hello there Mr. Eby.
I remember you commented a while back. Thank you for your appreciation of my blog and for linking it to your website. I will have to go and visit your site more often. I know I have seen a lot of good resources there.